Love Begins With You!
If you feel unloved, not appreciated, or consumed by the expectations of others…. Then this blog is for you!
February 2020 the focus is on love. What does it mean to truly love and be loved? How might you be preventing yourself from experiencing true love without expectations? To love and be loved starts with you! Only by first loving and accepting the imperfect person that you are, will you be capable of loving and being loved by another person. If your cup is empty, then all that you will attract and give out is a poor imitation of love. Not the real thing! It’s that simple!
Desire
We all want to be loved and accepted for who we are! We want someone that understands us and accepts the imperfect humans that we are. It’s a core desire etched into our very DNA, something that we all share and can relate to.
Problem
We want to be loved so badly that sometimes we sacrifice ourselves in order to receive it. Not realizing that true love is not earned, it is without expectations and accepts us for the imperfectly perfect human beings that we are. So all your really receiving is validation, not love!
Need
In order for you to have the relationship that you desire, you must first establish a love within your own heart, for who you are, in order for you to even be able to recognize true love. Not loving the person that your family wants you to be or the person that society wants you to be, but the actual person that you came into this world as. The imperfectly beautiful human that you are. Too many times I’ve seen loved ones, and clients settle with someone that doesn’t truly fulfill them and accept who they are as a way of preventing themselves from being hurt again or simply to fulfill what they believe is expected of them by society or their parents. Both of these reasons are usually unconscious choices that a person makes because they are unaware or in denial of the false beliefs that they either inherited from their parents or acquired through negative experiences. These types of relationships may seem pleasurable and fulfilling for a time, but in the end, they all result in a painful breakup. All because the intent behind why they initially decided to be with that person, was not because of unbiased love without expectations, but because their mind is clouded with the expectations, fears, beliefs, and desires of other people. They allowed the world, parents, or peers to tell them what would make them happy, what they must do to be accepted and loved by other people, all the while tossing aside their own thoughts and feelings.
To help you better understand the desire to be loved and determine if you are truly ready to receive love.
Ask yourself these questions….
Are you fully at peace with who you are, ready to be seen for your imperfections?
Are you willing to accept rejection in confidence, knowing that the right person will accept you?
Are you ready to see and accept your false beliefs and face them boldly as you venture into extending your energy and love to another person?
Are you ready to accept someone and love them for their flaws as you grow together?
Are you ready for a truly loving relationship where you no longer expect each other to change to be worthy of each other’s love?
If not, what are you seeking to get out of the relationship?
This Valentine’s Day I send you off with this...
Don’t allow the world, parents or peers to tell you what will make you happy! Or tell you what you need to do to be accepted and loved by other people. If you do this, you’ll find yourself tossing aside your own thoughts and feelings—your heart. None of it matters if you aren’t doing it for & from yourself. You must realize that the path that leads to you being happy and fulfilled, isn’t anyone else's path. You are love, a part of love. Love Yourself. You deserve to love and be loved fully. Go and be free
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